Dynamics of Sexual Abuse

Sexual abuse rarely happens by accident. It occurs—and persists—because of specific, predictable dynamics that allow perpetrators to exploit power, trust, and systemic failure. Understanding these dynamics is not just essential for survivors as they make sense of their experiences, but also for society at large, particularly when it comes to holding institutions accountable.

As experienced sexual abuse litigators, we investigate not only what happened to our clients, but how it was allowed to happen—and why it wasn’t stopped. In nearly every case of institutional sexual abuse, we uncover a pattern: a powerful individual exploits a position of trust, while the organization around them looks away, minimizes complaints, or actively conceals wrongdoing. These are not isolated incidents; they are failures of structure, leadership, and culture. Our work focuses on breaking these patterns—through exposure, legal accountability, and survivor-led action.

Grooming and Institutional Blindness

One of the most insidious aspects of sexual abuse is the grooming process. Grooming is a deliberate method used by abusers to lower a victim’s defenses, gain trust, and gradually normalize inappropriate behavior. In schools, churches, athletic programs, and hospitals, perpetrators often present themselves as mentors or protectors—generous with their time, overly attentive, and deeply embedded in the daily life of the institution.

A teacher might offer special privileges to a student. A coach may single out one athlete for “extra help.” A religious leader could provide spiritual guidance that gradually becomes more personal and invasive. These relationships appear supportive from the outside, which is precisely what allows them to flourish without question. Grooming doesn’t just affect the victim—it affects everyone around them, including administrators, coworkers, and family members, making it more difficult to recognize sexual abuse when it begins.

Institutions that fail to educate staff on the signs of grooming, or that dismiss early warning signs as “over-involvement” or “mentorship,” are not simply passive bystanders. They are facilitators of abuse, even if unintentionally. When an institution refuses to see the pattern—or worse, chooses not to see—it places its reputation above the safety of those it claims to serve.

Why Take Action?

When you decide to take a stand, it matters—not only for you, but for others. Taking action doesn’t have to look one way. It can be legal, it can be personal, or it can be both. Below are reasons many survivors find meaning, power, and hope in coming forward.

  • For Healing & Acknowledgment
  • To Hold Perpetrators & Institutions Accountable
  • To Seek Justice & Compensation
  • To Prevent Harm to Others
  • Because There’s No Shame in Seeking Justice
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Power, Control, and Silence

Abuse thrives in environments where power is uneven and accountability is weak. In institutional settings, the abuser is often someone with authority: a senior educator, a high-ranking religious figure, a celebrated coach, or a respected physician. These individuals often command respect and deference, which allows them to dismiss questions or silence critics. When a survivor finally discloses a report of sexual abuse, their story is often met with skepticism, minimization, or outright denial—especially when the accused is considered too valuable or too revered to be questioned.

This imbalance of power extends to the survivor as well. Children, students, employees, and patients are often dependent on the very systems that failed them. Their education, spiritual life, employment, or health may be tied to the institution where the abuse occurred. Speaking out may risk expulsion, job loss, public shaming, or social isolation. For many, that risk feels too great—and the abuse continues unchecked.

When institutions ignore sexual abuse dynamics, they do more than allow abuse to happen—they create a culture of silence and fear. They implicitly (or explicitly) send a message: you will not be believed, and even if you are, nothing will change. Breaking that silence is often the first act of courage a survivor takes, and it is one we are proud to support through skilled, compassionate legal representation.

Organizational Complicity and Coverups

The history of institutional sexual abuse in the United States is marked by patterns of coverup. In case after case, we’ve seen the same mechanisms at work: complaint records destroyed or sealed, perpetrators quietly transferred to new roles, victims silenced through intimidation or confidential settlements. Organizations claim ignorance, but internal emails, meeting notes, and whistleblower testimony often tell a different story.

These are not merely moral failures—they are legal ones. Institutions that knowingly shield sexual predators, fail to report incidents to authorities, or obstruct investigations may be held liable for their complicity. This includes school boards that ignored student complaints, religious leaders who reassigned clergy despite credible allegations, and corporations that protected high-level employees from scrutiny. In our work, uncovering these failures is central to building a case that forces organizations to answer not only for what they did—but for what they deliberately refused to do.

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Finding an experienced legal team that earns your trust is essential. Our attorneys are not only experienced litigators—they are advocates trained to support survivors with empathy and integrity. We understand the sensitive nature of sexual abuse cases and offer trauma-informed representation every step of the way. With decades of experience and a team of expert sexual abuse attorneys, we have the resources and resolve to take on powerful institutions and win. Whether you’re ready to file a lawsuit or are just exploring your options, we are here to listen and help.

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Barriers to Sexual Abuse Disclosure

Many survivors of institutional sexual abuse do not come forward until years—sometimes decades—after the abuse occurred. This delay is not a sign of uncertainty or fabrication; it is a common and well-documented psychological response to trauma. Survivors may feel shame, confusion, or deep-seated fear. In cases involving institutions, survivors often describe a profound sense of isolation—of feeling like they had no one to turn to, or that the system was rigged against them.

Some survivors did try to speak up and were ignored or punished. Others never had a safe or private way to report. In some faith-based communities, disclosures were treated as spiritual failings. In others, especially in tight-knit or marginalized communities, speaking out might have jeopardized the survivor’s entire support network. Institutions that discourage reporting—through unclear policies, threats of retaliation, or lack of confidentiality—bear responsibility for silencing victims and enabling future harm.

How Legal Action Exposes the Truth

Our sexual abuse attorney team believes that civil litigation is one of the most powerful tools for uncovering and dismantling the systems that enable abuse. By filing a lawsuit, sexual abuse survivors gain access to the legal process of discovery, which forces institutions to turn over internal records, emails, personnel files, and more. This process often reveals what was really going on behind closed doors: who knew, when they knew, and what they chose to do.

These cases have led to sweeping changes in organizational policies, leadership resignations, public apologies, and—in some cases—criminal prosecutions. More importantly, they have allowed survivors to reclaim power, speak their truths, and participate in building a safer future for others.


The dynamics of sexual abuse are complex, but the path to accountability is clear: institutions must be held responsible not just for the acts they failed to prevent, but for the cultures they created that allowed abuse to persist. If you or someone you love has been harmed, we are here to help. You are not alone—and you have the right to be heard.

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At Kayla’s Survivors, we stand with survivors—those who have endured sexual abuse, assault, misconduct, or institutional neglect. As a survivor-led, woman-led law firm, we have first-hand experience that grounds our firm and puts survivors’ healing at the center of our work. From guaranteeing confidentiality and an empathetic approach, to our specialized expertise and fierce advocacy, we promise to put your needs first. As nationally-recognized sexual abuse attorneys, our purpose is to help you reclaim your voice, pursue justice, and hold both perpetrators and institutions accountable for the harm caused by sexual violence.

Our founder, Kayla Onder, is herself a survivor of sexual violence. Her personal journey from silence to strength guides the heart of this firm. Because she has walked this path, she understands both the pain and the courage it takes to come forward. What began as her personal commitment to stand with survivors has grown into a national practice dedicated to compassion, justice, and institutional change.

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